Forgiveness

Here is the link to the songs by Gary Furr.

Gary Allison Furr has a wonderful selection of songs that I have found really good.

“Forgiveness” is my wife’s favorite song on my new CD . The chorus goes:

It’s impossible to give forgiveness
It’s even worse to have to ask
If letting go is the answer
Living like it’s gone is the task.
How else you going to deal with the past?

The news about Lance Armstrong and Gen. David Petraeus in the same year is maybe more than we can take, even in our jaded time. I find myself turning it all off more and more just to preserve my soul.

Cynicism can cripple the spirit. It can rest on the belief that everything is a con, everybody is out to get you, all politicians are evil, all human beings’ motives are bad.

While Christians might be seen to have a lot in common with that – what with the fall of humanity and all – I’m here to say, “Not really.”

The Christian gospel is not as much about how bad we are as that God knows it and loves us anyway.

Sin is not what lives on at the end of the day. Its moment is the middle of a Friday with a dark sky and a rugged cross and a man yelling, “It is finished.”

But the last word is an empty tomb, followed by a hopeful church, a Holy Spirit and a kingdom to come.

So as Thanksgiving approaches, it might be well for us to think about how to defeat cynicism in our lives. I want to offer two helpful practices from our faith that can be an antidote to cynicism.

First, speak a new language. This means learning some verbal restraint.

We live in a noisy, talking society. Learning to be quiet is a strange thought for us.

On the one hand, this implies controlling the tongue. James 3:8 warns us, “but no one can tame the tongue – a restless evil, full of deadly poison.”

Twitter seems to lead to more unnecessary conflicts than anything I’ve seen in a while, mostly because it is so easy to “speak before thinking.”

Words are not intended to be used without thinking. Learning to be careful with words is part of defeating cynicism toward others and even toward ourselves.

So practice “reframing” things. Cynicism has a language: the language of negation. We are often defeated before we start – our thoughts and words are laced with words like “can’t,” with criticism, defeatist language, and hostile and demeaning words.

We can begin speaking differently – maybe with less anger, more hope, less blaming, more acceptance of personal responsibility, more humility.

Paul says in Colossians 4:6, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt.”

In other words, we can practice the verbal discipline of graciousness. Give the other guy the benefit of the doubt. Even if you’re proved wrong, you haven’t lost anything.

Second, practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is a perspective in which nothing except the love of God has ultimate status.

In other words, hurts are put in their proper place, and we work at releasing our emotions about them. This is a challenge, but it can work.

Cynicism is seeing people’s failures and leaving them in full view of the world forever.

We do this when we “label” people with something they have done to us or someone else and forevermore that’s all we remember about them.

Forgiveness is not just letting go of the hurt; it is throwing away the label.

Reframing and forgiveness are two steps toward a happier life in these difficult and stressful times. There’s enough to worry about without churning up more from within.

The war of words is not won by cleverness or volume so much as by their lasting power to heal and change. Use them wisely, and never without considerable thought.

Gary Furr is pastor of Vestavia Hills Baptist Church in Birmingham, Ala. This column appeared previously on his blog.

Furr’s new album, “What It Is,” is now available for sale online.

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About Charles e Whisnant

Youth Pastor since 1964.Pastor/Teacher 1971-74, 1980-2001, 2008-2015. Seminary, College, On line training, 50 years of study. A student of of the Bible. Expositional in my teaching. Married for 45 years. Four children and three granddaughter. Currently pastor - teacher in Minford, Ohio. No published books. No TV program. Favorite preachers Spurgeon, Calvin, MacArthur, Lloyd-Jones, Packer, Edwards, Baxter, Puritans.
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